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Where Are You Standing in Your Career?


Where are you standing in your career

Before you chase the next title or fix the burnout, pause. Ask yourself this: Where are you, really?

You’ve done the things. The degrees. The promotions. The meetings where you spoke with just the right tone. The elevator pitch that lands. The LinkedIn profile that looks like a story of upward motion.

And yet, if you’re being honest — something feels… unspoken. Not wrong, necessarily. But off. Quietly misaligned.

You wake up tired in ways rest can’t fix. You scroll past job ads without interest. You fantasize not about success, but about silence. Space. Breathing room. A deeper “why.”

It’s the moment most high-functioning professionals never talk about: That split-second of stillness when you realize you’ve been moving, but maybe not in a direction that truly belongs to you.

That’s the moment this blog is for.



The Career Identity You Didn’t Choose

Most of us don’t choose our careers — not entirely. We inherit them.

From parents, cultures, financial fear, school counselors, survival instincts, or the image of who we thought we needed to become in order to be enough.

Maybe you were raised to admire stability — so you pursued it, even when it came at the cost of creativity.

Maybe you built your work ethic on being “the strong one”, “the reliable one”, “the first in the family to succeed”. And now you’re wondering if the strength has turned into self-betrayal.

Here’s a gentle truth:

Your career is not just your job. It’s part of your identity. And that identity can become outdated — even if the job looks “perfect” on paper.

What version of success were you raised to admire? And whose voice is still narrating your work story?


The Emotional Weather of Your Work Life


Your nervous system knows things your résumé doesn’t.

Start there. Not with logic. Not with strategy. With sensation.

Ask yourself:

  • How do I feel on Sunday evenings?

  • When my phone buzzes with a calendar alert, does my chest tighten?

  • Do I feel like myself at work — or like a version of me I’ve rehearsed too well?


🔍 Career Emotional Audit:

Choose the top 3 emotions you feel most consistently during your workweek:

✦ Excitement

✦ Pressure

✦ Numbness

✦ Irritation

✦ Gratitude

✦ Anxiety

✦ Ambition

✦ Boredom

✦ Guilt

✦ Flow


There’s no right answer. But there is truth here.



Success Isn’t the Same as Alignment


You can be good at something and still not be meant for it anymore.

That truth is tender — especially for high achievers.

Do you love what you do — or are you just skilled at surviving it?

I’ve worked with clients who were managing teams, launching products, getting promoted — and quietly grieving the parts of themselves they left behind to do it.


One woman came to me with a high-level role. Her days were full, her calendar stacked, her salary enviable. And yet she said: “I don’t even know what I like anymore. I just know I’m tired.”

Not because she was failing. Because she had built her success on a version of herself that no longer felt true.

That’s not weakness. That’s awakening.



The Hidden Cost of Staying Misaligned


Staying too long in a version of your career that no longer fits isn’t just inconvenient — it’s quietly corrosive.

You start feeling like you’re always “on”. You smile through Zoom calls while your gut tightens. You say “I’m fine” when you haven’t been fine in months.


⚠️ Common signs of career misalignment:

  • Fatigue that sleep can’t touch

  • Brain fog or emotional numbness

  • Apathy — even about things that used to excite you

  • Quiet resentment toward your job (or colleagues)

  • Fantasies about quitting, vanishing, or starting over


This is not drama. This is data. Your system is telling the truth your résumé can’t.



Finding Your Inner Career Compass


So what now? You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just ready to stand — to come home to yourself before you run toward the next shiny fix.


🧭 Career Compass Check-In:


Ask yourself:

  1. What matters most to me now?

  2. What am I still performing — and why?

  3. What kind of work makes me lose track of time?

  4. What drains me — even when I do it “well”?

  5. What would I pursue if I no longer needed to prove anything?


You don’t need the full roadmap. You just need to stop pretending you’re not lost.



You Don’t Have to Rush Your Way Into Clarity


Career transformation doesn’t begin with a leap. It begins with presence.

Standing — truly standing — means no longer abandoning yourself in the name of appearances.

It means letting go of old scripts, quieting the noise, and listening inward for the first time in a while.

“You don’t need to know the whole map. You just need to stop pretending you’re not lost”

So pause here.

Stand.

Breathe.

Let this be the beginning of your return to alignment.



Next Step: Redefining Your Career Identity


This is part one in a two-part series on Vision & Identity. Next, we’ll explore how to reclaim your career identity — not as a title, but as a truth.


💡 If this blog resonated with you, consider booking a Career Coaching Session with me. This isn’t about your job title. It’s about your inner alignment.



BONUS: Career Compass Worksheet (PDF) Get yours now!

I prepared a downloadable worksheet (PDF) that includes:

  • The 5 Compass Questions

  • Emotional Audit scale

  • Space to journal responses






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